Saturday, September 29, 2007
Let's start this blog going
OK. I think it's time? I'll try to ramble more, reflect more. Inspired by Aifang to blog blog blog! haha... coz our memories dim with time.
Lost. How do you deal with it?
Lost. Of a being you've just started a bond with. Of a beating heart that started inside of you. How do you deal with it? Not that it happened to me. Talked to a friend that has just lost a baby. A painful discovery that amid the woes, I think, there are always blessings that you can count.
Many thoughts run by her. She knows it's not her fault, but sometimes thoughts just come, 'Did I not do something right?' 'Why did it happen to me?' 'Some people do not want the baby and try to get rid of it by smoking, drinking, etc... But why did it happen to me?'
Could it be better that the baby died now then later? What could have caused it? These are questions that no one can answer. The only answer that we have is that it has already happened. What you choose to do next is more important. The pain can never go away. We can only choose to let the pain strengthen us. Strengthen the relationships between the couple, among the friends. Time can heal, but the scar will always be there
Read about this little girl in the papers sometime ago. Deja (http://2deja.com/) had a tumor in the brain stem. Doctors give her 4-6 months. That's all. Death is certain. How do they react to the news? Everytime I read about her, tears well in my eyes. Deshane is 5. The same age as her. I can't imagine the pain. Her mother is really strong. But more importantly, positive. She made all effort to have fun, enjoy her eldest daugther, while she still could. I checked back the website again, Deja has left. She did not blow the candles off her 5th birthday cake. She never got to see 5.
"There's a picture on my desk of a little girl in a blue dress, holding a white flower. I keep it there to remind me to stop counting the days until the temperature drops. Or the hours until the weekend. Or the weeks until school begins. This little girl and her family aren't counting. To them, every day is precious just as it comes," Laurie Roberts of the Arizona Republic.
It reminds me to enjoy my own children. Laugh with them. Be silly. Enjoy their antics. We never know when our time will be up. Make someone smile everyday.
Life can NEVER be predicted. Life should be savoured for the moment. Carpe diem. Seize the day.
Many thoughts run by her. She knows it's not her fault, but sometimes thoughts just come, 'Did I not do something right?' 'Why did it happen to me?' 'Some people do not want the baby and try to get rid of it by smoking, drinking, etc... But why did it happen to me?'
Could it be better that the baby died now then later? What could have caused it? These are questions that no one can answer. The only answer that we have is that it has already happened. What you choose to do next is more important. The pain can never go away. We can only choose to let the pain strengthen us. Strengthen the relationships between the couple, among the friends. Time can heal, but the scar will always be there
Read about this little girl in the papers sometime ago. Deja (http://2deja.com/) had a tumor in the brain stem. Doctors give her 4-6 months. That's all. Death is certain. How do they react to the news? Everytime I read about her, tears well in my eyes. Deshane is 5. The same age as her. I can't imagine the pain. Her mother is really strong. But more importantly, positive. She made all effort to have fun, enjoy her eldest daugther, while she still could. I checked back the website again, Deja has left. She did not blow the candles off her 5th birthday cake. She never got to see 5.
"There's a picture on my desk of a little girl in a blue dress, holding a white flower. I keep it there to remind me to stop counting the days until the temperature drops. Or the hours until the weekend. Or the weeks until school begins. This little girl and her family aren't counting. To them, every day is precious just as it comes," Laurie Roberts of the Arizona Republic.
It reminds me to enjoy my own children. Laugh with them. Be silly. Enjoy their antics. We never know when our time will be up. Make someone smile everyday.
Life can NEVER be predicted. Life should be savoured for the moment. Carpe diem. Seize the day.
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