How coincidental can you have 2 brothers-in-law (one, your sister's husband, one, your husband's brother) having the same birthday? Which is a day after yours? hahaha! confused? Well, that's my sister!
What about also having 2 brothers-in-law in the airforce, who went to USA too? That's my sister too!
What about your sister camping in a forest with a dear friend she got to know in far away USA chatting and finally realising that that friend is a long-lost secondary schoolmate of yours? haha.. that's my sister too!
The world of coincidences. How small the world is. So whatever you do, someone, somewhere, sometime, it will be linked back to you! So make sure you live a life you will be proud of! ;)
Sunday, July 27, 2008
Thursday, July 17, 2008
Friends, lovers, couples, partners
Humans cannot live alone. We are a social being. So relationships exist. Different kinds of relationship, for we play different roles.
Friendships.... we choose our friends, sometimes our friends choose us. How do we choose our friends? By common interests, common thinking, common goals, common schools... but as humans there are always differences. Are we willing to accept these differences? Do we accept the person for who he/she is? Or do we project our expectations on these friends and expect them to do as we do?
A dear friend mentioned about this saying she read... You judge people by what you are... I agree with it. How you think, how you reason, largely plays a part with how you view others. So be slow to judge, look at the situation from different angles, different views, through different coloured glasses... and do not expect people to think or act like you. Be quick to forgive, faster to forget. Life will be happier.
In a marriage, time dims the romance. Complacency, getting too comfortable sometimes makes life boring. Marriage is how you work things out. Just like any relationship. When kids comes, focus change. But it's always how you compromise, to bring you to many more years of wedded bliss. It might not be as blissful as it was, but always remember the commitment you made, the vows that you promised, the love that you shared. The love is always there.. somewhere deep within you, the spark just needs to be flamed, give it a gentle blow, let it breathe a little more.
Life is always what you make it out to be. Choose happiness, not anger. Laugh a little more, sing louder, dance crazily, give someone a hug, RIGHT NOW!
;) cheers!
Friendships.... we choose our friends, sometimes our friends choose us. How do we choose our friends? By common interests, common thinking, common goals, common schools... but as humans there are always differences. Are we willing to accept these differences? Do we accept the person for who he/she is? Or do we project our expectations on these friends and expect them to do as we do?
A dear friend mentioned about this saying she read... You judge people by what you are... I agree with it. How you think, how you reason, largely plays a part with how you view others. So be slow to judge, look at the situation from different angles, different views, through different coloured glasses... and do not expect people to think or act like you. Be quick to forgive, faster to forget. Life will be happier.
In a marriage, time dims the romance. Complacency, getting too comfortable sometimes makes life boring. Marriage is how you work things out. Just like any relationship. When kids comes, focus change. But it's always how you compromise, to bring you to many more years of wedded bliss. It might not be as blissful as it was, but always remember the commitment you made, the vows that you promised, the love that you shared. The love is always there.. somewhere deep within you, the spark just needs to be flamed, give it a gentle blow, let it breathe a little more.
Life is always what you make it out to be. Choose happiness, not anger. Laugh a little more, sing louder, dance crazily, give someone a hug, RIGHT NOW!
;) cheers!
Friday, July 11, 2008
The beauty of the internet
I wrote my last blog with intentions totally different from what i posted. It's wierd how my brain thinks, as I write too many thoughts run. So now, let's get back to what I originally intended!
3 friends, 3 time-zones, 3 countries. All meeting at one place. The internet. Chatting like we're over the dinner table.
Time and space is no longer an issue with the internet. Thoughts shared, feelings spilled, anything can be said, so much more easily over the internet. Maybe it's much easier to say out our true innermost feelings when we don't have to face the person? We don't have to worry about the other getting angry or sad, we don't have to worry about the initial reaction, don't have to deal with tears.
As we grow, we learn what is prim and proper. Courtesy, civility to others. Kids let out their true feelings because they have not yet learned what is the 'norm', what is the 'right' behaviour. Sometimes should we go back to being a kid, and learn from them? Say what we feel, instead of putting up a false front? Being more true, but at the same time, more willing to forgive and forget?
3 friends, 3 time-zones, 3 countries. All meeting at one place. The internet. Chatting like we're over the dinner table.
Time and space is no longer an issue with the internet. Thoughts shared, feelings spilled, anything can be said, so much more easily over the internet. Maybe it's much easier to say out our true innermost feelings when we don't have to face the person? We don't have to worry about the other getting angry or sad, we don't have to worry about the initial reaction, don't have to deal with tears.
As we grow, we learn what is prim and proper. Courtesy, civility to others. Kids let out their true feelings because they have not yet learned what is the 'norm', what is the 'right' behaviour. Sometimes should we go back to being a kid, and learn from them? Say what we feel, instead of putting up a false front? Being more true, but at the same time, more willing to forgive and forget?
Thursday, July 10, 2008
Changes of lifestyle
3 friends, in 3 countries, in 3 different time zones chatting together on the internet. Whoever will thought it possible 20 years ago... back then it was the mailman who brought news, or maybe a telegram from the post office...
Can u imagine one day without technology in your life? The handphone. We'll have to arrange to meet through a letter, confirm the meeting, be there on time, no last minute changes. hmmm... will we meet up then?
One day without electricity... oh my goodness.. can we function at all?
Came back one day to a lift that did not work. An elderly lady did not even dare to enter the lift. I checked with the guard and they said there was a test on the system. In that few minutes, a mini crowd gathered. I mean, can't we use the stairs? People used to walk miles but now we can't walk up a flight of stairs.. make that 5 for me. I headed up. I did not want to wait. At the 5th floor, I panted. I am weak. In need of exercise.. Is the gym where we need to go for exercise? Shouldn't physical activity be a normal part of life?
I'm heading to Chiang Mai for a holiday.. for a back to nature and basics holiday. I wonder how I will survive.. that'll be in Dec with the boys scout (my uncle is in the scouts, so we're tagging along!). We'll see how we manage then..
Can u imagine one day without technology in your life? The handphone. We'll have to arrange to meet through a letter, confirm the meeting, be there on time, no last minute changes. hmmm... will we meet up then?
One day without electricity... oh my goodness.. can we function at all?
Came back one day to a lift that did not work. An elderly lady did not even dare to enter the lift. I checked with the guard and they said there was a test on the system. In that few minutes, a mini crowd gathered. I mean, can't we use the stairs? People used to walk miles but now we can't walk up a flight of stairs.. make that 5 for me. I headed up. I did not want to wait. At the 5th floor, I panted. I am weak. In need of exercise.. Is the gym where we need to go for exercise? Shouldn't physical activity be a normal part of life?
I'm heading to Chiang Mai for a holiday.. for a back to nature and basics holiday. I wonder how I will survive.. that'll be in Dec with the boys scout (my uncle is in the scouts, so we're tagging along!). We'll see how we manage then..
Friday, July 04, 2008
Asiaone : Penalise riders who do not give up seats to those in need
reading all the comments that were written makes me feel that Singapore is becoming more and more a selfish and inconsiderate society. Chivalry is gone to the wind. Now, I can hear all the guys saying... 'ya, only expect the men to give up their seats'. Guys, have you been pregnant? Do you know how tiring it can be? During the first 3 months of pregnancy, you are just physically tired even before you start to show. Your body is going through so many changes you lose track of it. The last 3 months is even more stressful on the back, go tie a medicine ball on your abdomen and carry that for a few days, DO NOT REMOVE IT AT ALL TIMES.
I do not think it necessary to penalise someone. Do we need to become a society where graciousness have to be coerced? We have already become such a 'fine' society. No where else in the world are there penalties for being ungracious. Maybe that is because graciousness is within themselves? Simple things like clearing your table, throwing your trash into a dustbin.
My sis went to Bangkok and boarded the train (similar to MRT). She has 3 young kids, and was with her husband and 2 adult friends. A few passengers willingly gave up their seats for the kids. They could be just as tired, but they understand that kids need it more than them. They did not complain, they did not pretend to sleep, they are gracious.
reading all the comments that were written makes me feel that Singapore is becoming more and more a selfish and inconsiderate society. Chivalry is gone to the wind. Now, I can hear all the guys saying... 'ya, only expect the men to give up their seats'. Guys, have you been pregnant? Do you know how tiring it can be? During the first 3 months of pregnancy, you are just physically tired even before you start to show. Your body is going through so many changes you lose track of it. The last 3 months is even more stressful on the back, go tie a medicine ball on your abdomen and carry that for a few days, DO NOT REMOVE IT AT ALL TIMES.
I do not think it necessary to penalise someone. Do we need to become a society where graciousness have to be coerced? We have already become such a 'fine' society. No where else in the world are there penalties for being ungracious. Maybe that is because graciousness is within themselves? Simple things like clearing your table, throwing your trash into a dustbin.
My sis went to Bangkok and boarded the train (similar to MRT). She has 3 young kids, and was with her husband and 2 adult friends. A few passengers willingly gave up their seats for the kids. They could be just as tired, but they understand that kids need it more than them. They did not complain, they did not pretend to sleep, they are gracious.
Saturday, June 28, 2008
Breastfeeding
I've done it for all 3 boys. And I do not hide while doing it. No, I'm not going to restrict myself to a nursing room or dressing room for that 20 mins. I shop and feed, I eat and feed, I people-watch and feed, I even hike and feed. And no, I do not expose my breast, I just do it. I have people coming to me while I'm breast-feeding and they think that baby is sleeping. Only when I mention that I'm breastfeeding do they realise that, turn red and excuse themselves.
Reading Baby's Room = Diaper Change Room = Nursing Room = Family Room = Not Breastfeeding Room? and the comments posted, I think we have to learn to be more considerate. We are all mothers, and we understand what it's like to be one. I think the lady wanting to change the diaper can just ask if we can share the room. The writer, Linda Koh, can just offer to share the room. It seems that Linda's husband is telling them that the room is used and cannot be shared. If we are more tolerant, more considerate, I think life would be more pleasant. Sometimes, it just makes someone's day to see a smile, so smile, laugh, it'll make you happier too.
Reading Baby's Room = Diaper Change Room = Nursing Room = Family Room = Not Breastfeeding Room? and the comments posted, I think we have to learn to be more considerate. We are all mothers, and we understand what it's like to be one. I think the lady wanting to change the diaper can just ask if we can share the room. The writer, Linda Koh, can just offer to share the room. It seems that Linda's husband is telling them that the room is used and cannot be shared. If we are more tolerant, more considerate, I think life would be more pleasant. Sometimes, it just makes someone's day to see a smile, so smile, laugh, it'll make you happier too.
Abuse of maid
Some actions of Singaporeans are really to be laughed at. It's totally ridiculous and a great big joke. 'Jailed and fined for drawing on maid's face'
I never understand how one can pour scalding water on someone, use a hot iron to burn someone. These despicable acts are from people from respectable jobs. Few weeks ago, another couple, an aircraft engineer and air stewardess, were sent to jail for ill-treating their maid. As I read the headline today, I was laughing my guts out. What a childish thing to do! Drawing lines on your maid's face? My goodness!! Would you draw lines on your child's face if he/she does not close the door properly?
A maid is not a slave. You do not own her, so you treat her with respect. Well, unless you want your children to treat you such when you are old and 'useless'.
I can't imagine what she is going to tell her children when she is in jail for that 3 weeks. 'Oh, I'm going on holiday.' hahaha... if her kids were older, maybe they will just pick up the newspaper and read the news? Boasting in school, 'My mum is in jail for drawing lines on my maid's face!!'
I do not have a maid, I avoid having one. I'm lucky I'm a SAHM. I want my kids to be independent. I want my kids to clean up after themselves. If you have a maid, think about what you want your kids to become. What if you have to send your maid back? How will the household be ran? Be appreciative to the help you receive from your maid. And maybe she'll be more appreciative to you. In the days of early Singapore, nannies or ah-mas take care of the house. They are treated like family, so why can't we do so now? Is affluence authority for you to act like beasts? Remember the golden rule, 'Treat others the way you want them to treat you'.
I never understand how one can pour scalding water on someone, use a hot iron to burn someone. These despicable acts are from people from respectable jobs. Few weeks ago, another couple, an aircraft engineer and air stewardess, were sent to jail for ill-treating their maid. As I read the headline today, I was laughing my guts out. What a childish thing to do! Drawing lines on your maid's face? My goodness!! Would you draw lines on your child's face if he/she does not close the door properly?
A maid is not a slave. You do not own her, so you treat her with respect. Well, unless you want your children to treat you such when you are old and 'useless'.
I can't imagine what she is going to tell her children when she is in jail for that 3 weeks. 'Oh, I'm going on holiday.' hahaha... if her kids were older, maybe they will just pick up the newspaper and read the news? Boasting in school, 'My mum is in jail for drawing lines on my maid's face!!'
I do not have a maid, I avoid having one. I'm lucky I'm a SAHM. I want my kids to be independent. I want my kids to clean up after themselves. If you have a maid, think about what you want your kids to become. What if you have to send your maid back? How will the household be ran? Be appreciative to the help you receive from your maid. And maybe she'll be more appreciative to you. In the days of early Singapore, nannies or ah-mas take care of the house. They are treated like family, so why can't we do so now? Is affluence authority for you to act like beasts? Remember the golden rule, 'Treat others the way you want them to treat you'.
Monday, June 23, 2008
Water
Water comprises 70% of our bodies. Water is an essential part of life. We can only live for a few days without water.
Has been trying to educate the boys on not wasting water. They turn on the tap full blast and leave it running while they slowly squeeze a pea-size of toothpaste on their toothbrush. At bathtime, they blast the shower head at the walls and door of the bathroom, while they stay mostly dry. We turn on the tap and there is water running. We take precious water for granted.
Was watching Planet Green last week on Discovery Channel, our favourite channel. It was talking about how people tapped spring waters by building long endless tunnels, and looking for new springs to keep the wells full. They are called 'fur-large', don't know the exact spelling and still trying to find out. Quickly grabbed the opportunity to tell the boys how much work they have to go to have clean water.
Received a bottle of NEWater on saturday, it was at Bedok Reservoir and learnt that Singapore International Water Week is held on 23-27 June 2008. Thought about how NEWater is recycled water. Are people receptive to drinking it? Researching a little bit further (it's simple nowadays, just search it on the internet...) I learnt that 82% of Sg'reans are prepared to drink NEWater. But then think about it, ain't waters from the reservoirs 'recycled' too? The mud in it, the poo of animals in it, ain't it as 'disgusting' if u think about it? Then think about the natural cycle of water... rain, evaporation, condensation.
Then did a bit more research... Water Facts. The earth is largely made up of water, but only about 0.007% of the earth's water is readily accessible for human use! Guess if someone comes up with some ingenious way of 'cleaning' water, he'll be a billionaire, made a hero, save the earth!
That is sometimes the irony of life ain't it. Water is so abundant yet so precious. Water... be grateful we have it running from the tap. Cheers!
Has been trying to educate the boys on not wasting water. They turn on the tap full blast and leave it running while they slowly squeeze a pea-size of toothpaste on their toothbrush. At bathtime, they blast the shower head at the walls and door of the bathroom, while they stay mostly dry. We turn on the tap and there is water running. We take precious water for granted.
Was watching Planet Green last week on Discovery Channel, our favourite channel. It was talking about how people tapped spring waters by building long endless tunnels, and looking for new springs to keep the wells full. They are called 'fur-large', don't know the exact spelling and still trying to find out. Quickly grabbed the opportunity to tell the boys how much work they have to go to have clean water.
Received a bottle of NEWater on saturday, it was at Bedok Reservoir and learnt that Singapore International Water Week is held on 23-27 June 2008. Thought about how NEWater is recycled water. Are people receptive to drinking it? Researching a little bit further (it's simple nowadays, just search it on the internet...) I learnt that 82% of Sg'reans are prepared to drink NEWater. But then think about it, ain't waters from the reservoirs 'recycled' too? The mud in it, the poo of animals in it, ain't it as 'disgusting' if u think about it? Then think about the natural cycle of water... rain, evaporation, condensation.
Then did a bit more research... Water Facts. The earth is largely made up of water, but only about 0.007% of the earth's water is readily accessible for human use! Guess if someone comes up with some ingenious way of 'cleaning' water, he'll be a billionaire, made a hero, save the earth!
That is sometimes the irony of life ain't it. Water is so abundant yet so precious. Water... be grateful we have it running from the tap. Cheers!
Saturday, June 21, 2008
Mindchamps...
Was at a book fair 2 weeks ago and signed up for this talk about Mindchamps (http://www.mindchamps.org/) Been seeing its ads in the papers so curiosity and wanting the best for our kids led us to attend the talk. A 3 hour talk and almost $3000 (paid by instalments) later.. we walked out hoping that it will empower our eldest son in his education when he starts primary sch and attends 7 months at Mindchamps.
Why did we sign up? I think this is effective.. It teaches the kid effective ways of learning. And not only that, they are to learn the champion mindset. Being positive, dreaming castles, aiming high. The power of the subconscious mind is largely untapped. Knowing how to use your whole brain will greatly empower you to remember more.
How effective is it? Demonstrations were shown, it is impressive, but I feel that is only the learning part of it, helping you to remember facts. But I think the real effectiveness of this course is not just helping memory, it is the mindset. Learning to be positive. We'll see how it works, when Deshane starts this next year.
Why did we sign up? I think this is effective.. It teaches the kid effective ways of learning. And not only that, they are to learn the champion mindset. Being positive, dreaming castles, aiming high. The power of the subconscious mind is largely untapped. Knowing how to use your whole brain will greatly empower you to remember more.
How effective is it? Demonstrations were shown, it is impressive, but I feel that is only the learning part of it, helping you to remember facts. But I think the real effectiveness of this course is not just helping memory, it is the mindset. Learning to be positive. We'll see how it works, when Deshane starts this next year.
Friday, June 20, 2008
Bedwetting
After tireless nights and days and years of bedwetting, suddenly I decided to do a search on bedwetting on the internet. Wikipedia (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bedwetting) tells me that bedwetting is involuntary. Before you think it is me, no, it is my 2 elder boys aged 4.5 and 6 years.
Yes, I've tried many ideas, clearing bladder before bed, waking them up after about 2 hours of sleep, limiting liquids just before bedtime. None of this seems to work, put them on diapers, then off diapers when I'm out of them, only to have the toilet full of hanging shorts/pants and a smelly bedroom. Then back to diapers, even caning them, doesn't help. So now, I finally have come to terms with it, it is involuntary and until their body is ready to be toilet-trained at night... there seems to be nothing I can do about it.
I think I might try the bedwetting alarm. I really hope it works. I'm sick of the idea of putting on diapers for my big boys.
But one thing really pisses me off. They pee, ok, it's involuntary, but can't they feel that they are wet? They can go on sleeping in their wet warm pee, until it is dry in the morning! gesh! boys...
Yes, I've tried many ideas, clearing bladder before bed, waking them up after about 2 hours of sleep, limiting liquids just before bedtime. None of this seems to work, put them on diapers, then off diapers when I'm out of them, only to have the toilet full of hanging shorts/pants and a smelly bedroom. Then back to diapers, even caning them, doesn't help. So now, I finally have come to terms with it, it is involuntary and until their body is ready to be toilet-trained at night... there seems to be nothing I can do about it.
I think I might try the bedwetting alarm. I really hope it works. I'm sick of the idea of putting on diapers for my big boys.
But one thing really pisses me off. They pee, ok, it's involuntary, but can't they feel that they are wet? They can go on sleeping in their wet warm pee, until it is dry in the morning! gesh! boys...
Friday, June 13, 2008
Moving house and shopping
It never seems to come to end. Moving. Putting all that I have amassed over the years of my life into boxes and unpacking my treasures into the new house.
In my 32 years, this will be the 15th house I will be living in. Crazy rite? And the craziest thing is that I am a collector. Unfortunately not a collector of antiques or anything of appreciating monetary value, but a collector of things that were a part of my life.
The amount of 'property' I own has accumulated to levels which I cannot contain in one house. This is crazy, I think it is time to start throwing things away. But what is worth nothing? or worth everything? That is the most difficult decision to make.
We lived in Arizona, USA the past 2 years. Feb 2006-Apr 2008. I had a whirl of a time shopping there. Added much much more to my house, having lots of business ideas, which have yet been put to action. (This reminds me that I've got to do something about that soon. Will update it here as soon as I get things going, so keep a lookout!) Shopping in USA is fun! You can get extremely good deals, that you will not be able to resist. Shopping in Singapore is really nothing compared to it. Imagine, I got a pair of crocs for my baby for less than USD10! HA! and most of the clothes I buy for my troop don't cost me more than USD5 apiece. And they are branded stuff, okie... Nike, Oshkosh, Timberland, Spiderman (Originals, not what you get at pasar malams) among others.
Well, we're back here in Singapore and I'm definitely not shopping unless I really really need it. I'm thrown back to reality. No more shopping haven for me.
Actually while packing to return to Singapore, questions run through me. A fire can just burn everything you own in a few seconds. Saw a video of how quickly a curtain caught fire and destroyed everything in that room. The question of how much I have amassed came. How quickly everything can be destroyed in that few seconds. Is it worth it all? Why not instead of spending the money on physical acquisitions, spend the money on acquiring experiences, going on holiday or even by being more philanthropic?
Just this week, I read about holidays taken by this family, which I think is a really good idea, to help others. They spent their holiday at an orphanage. First, you bring the children great joy by just being with them. Second, the gifts you bring are really necessities that they may need, but never will be able to dream of having. Third, you might just leave them feeling that you are indeed fortunate to be able to take that holiday, be on a plane, go to a new place, and be a bringer of great joy. There are many things that we take for granted. I think it is good to go places where people are not so well-off for us to learn to be more grateful. Maybe then life will be more meaningful.
OK, the more I write, the more I digress... I shall end here for today. I have more to ramble, which I will. I think I'm getting a hang of this!
In my 32 years, this will be the 15th house I will be living in. Crazy rite? And the craziest thing is that I am a collector. Unfortunately not a collector of antiques or anything of appreciating monetary value, but a collector of things that were a part of my life.
The amount of 'property' I own has accumulated to levels which I cannot contain in one house. This is crazy, I think it is time to start throwing things away. But what is worth nothing? or worth everything? That is the most difficult decision to make.
We lived in Arizona, USA the past 2 years. Feb 2006-Apr 2008. I had a whirl of a time shopping there. Added much much more to my house, having lots of business ideas, which have yet been put to action. (This reminds me that I've got to do something about that soon. Will update it here as soon as I get things going, so keep a lookout!) Shopping in USA is fun! You can get extremely good deals, that you will not be able to resist. Shopping in Singapore is really nothing compared to it. Imagine, I got a pair of crocs for my baby for less than USD10! HA! and most of the clothes I buy for my troop don't cost me more than USD5 apiece. And they are branded stuff, okie... Nike, Oshkosh, Timberland, Spiderman (Originals, not what you get at pasar malams) among others.
Well, we're back here in Singapore and I'm definitely not shopping unless I really really need it. I'm thrown back to reality. No more shopping haven for me.
Actually while packing to return to Singapore, questions run through me. A fire can just burn everything you own in a few seconds. Saw a video of how quickly a curtain caught fire and destroyed everything in that room. The question of how much I have amassed came. How quickly everything can be destroyed in that few seconds. Is it worth it all? Why not instead of spending the money on physical acquisitions, spend the money on acquiring experiences, going on holiday or even by being more philanthropic?
Just this week, I read about holidays taken by this family, which I think is a really good idea, to help others. They spent their holiday at an orphanage. First, you bring the children great joy by just being with them. Second, the gifts you bring are really necessities that they may need, but never will be able to dream of having. Third, you might just leave them feeling that you are indeed fortunate to be able to take that holiday, be on a plane, go to a new place, and be a bringer of great joy. There are many things that we take for granted. I think it is good to go places where people are not so well-off for us to learn to be more grateful. Maybe then life will be more meaningful.
OK, the more I write, the more I digress... I shall end here for today. I have more to ramble, which I will. I think I'm getting a hang of this!
Saturday, September 29, 2007
Let's start this blog going
OK. I think it's time? I'll try to ramble more, reflect more. Inspired by Aifang to blog blog blog! haha... coz our memories dim with time.
Lost. How do you deal with it?
Lost. Of a being you've just started a bond with. Of a beating heart that started inside of you. How do you deal with it? Not that it happened to me. Talked to a friend that has just lost a baby. A painful discovery that amid the woes, I think, there are always blessings that you can count.
Many thoughts run by her. She knows it's not her fault, but sometimes thoughts just come, 'Did I not do something right?' 'Why did it happen to me?' 'Some people do not want the baby and try to get rid of it by smoking, drinking, etc... But why did it happen to me?'
Could it be better that the baby died now then later? What could have caused it? These are questions that no one can answer. The only answer that we have is that it has already happened. What you choose to do next is more important. The pain can never go away. We can only choose to let the pain strengthen us. Strengthen the relationships between the couple, among the friends. Time can heal, but the scar will always be there
Read about this little girl in the papers sometime ago. Deja (http://2deja.com/) had a tumor in the brain stem. Doctors give her 4-6 months. That's all. Death is certain. How do they react to the news? Everytime I read about her, tears well in my eyes. Deshane is 5. The same age as her. I can't imagine the pain. Her mother is really strong. But more importantly, positive. She made all effort to have fun, enjoy her eldest daugther, while she still could. I checked back the website again, Deja has left. She did not blow the candles off her 5th birthday cake. She never got to see 5.
"There's a picture on my desk of a little girl in a blue dress, holding a white flower. I keep it there to remind me to stop counting the days until the temperature drops. Or the hours until the weekend. Or the weeks until school begins. This little girl and her family aren't counting. To them, every day is precious just as it comes," Laurie Roberts of the Arizona Republic.
It reminds me to enjoy my own children. Laugh with them. Be silly. Enjoy their antics. We never know when our time will be up. Make someone smile everyday.
Life can NEVER be predicted. Life should be savoured for the moment. Carpe diem. Seize the day.
Many thoughts run by her. She knows it's not her fault, but sometimes thoughts just come, 'Did I not do something right?' 'Why did it happen to me?' 'Some people do not want the baby and try to get rid of it by smoking, drinking, etc... But why did it happen to me?'
Could it be better that the baby died now then later? What could have caused it? These are questions that no one can answer. The only answer that we have is that it has already happened. What you choose to do next is more important. The pain can never go away. We can only choose to let the pain strengthen us. Strengthen the relationships between the couple, among the friends. Time can heal, but the scar will always be there
Read about this little girl in the papers sometime ago. Deja (http://2deja.com/) had a tumor in the brain stem. Doctors give her 4-6 months. That's all. Death is certain. How do they react to the news? Everytime I read about her, tears well in my eyes. Deshane is 5. The same age as her. I can't imagine the pain. Her mother is really strong. But more importantly, positive. She made all effort to have fun, enjoy her eldest daugther, while she still could. I checked back the website again, Deja has left. She did not blow the candles off her 5th birthday cake. She never got to see 5.
"There's a picture on my desk of a little girl in a blue dress, holding a white flower. I keep it there to remind me to stop counting the days until the temperature drops. Or the hours until the weekend. Or the weeks until school begins. This little girl and her family aren't counting. To them, every day is precious just as it comes," Laurie Roberts of the Arizona Republic.
It reminds me to enjoy my own children. Laugh with them. Be silly. Enjoy their antics. We never know when our time will be up. Make someone smile everyday.
Life can NEVER be predicted. Life should be savoured for the moment. Carpe diem. Seize the day.
Saturday, July 29, 2006
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